The list isn’t intended in anyway to idealize what our partners should be or a life long relationship should be, but epitomizes there ability to commit to life long learning, through growth to become and have these qualities.
This will help to decrease conflict in relationship, albeit there is room for individuality, some of these qualities must already be present and they might just have problems articulating them and that’s where life long learning comes in, in order to help bring all the stored treasures out, for some individuals that won’t commit to self development or self growth are often very INTOLERANT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS involving people
• Choose someone as though you were blind and see what you can feel about that person of their kindness, loyalty, Insight, Love for you, Devotion and there ability to be concerned with you about the issues in your world.
• Choose someone who when you hurt them they feel the pain and are willing to show it vice versa, also when they hurt you they can see your pain & they feel sorry for you and are willing to do what it takes within a reasonable amount of time to say sorry or make up. It is worrisome when you have a mate that does something that’s unkind & they show no reaction, that means they have lost touch with been fully human
• Choose someone who is on there own journey in life i.e. have a purpose and see you as there partner or traveller in that journey, wanting a co-creative experience with you, having that special bond that stretches which never breaks, not one which the stretching through conflict breaks the bond in your relationship.
• Choose someone who is willing to be your friend, not only your LOVER, but likes you as a person, who is willing to do for you what they can do for there friends, who can forgive your faults, , who in there humanity understands that mistakes are acceptable, since this is one outstanding quality that makes us all humans, in there humanity they are able to have compassion
• Choose someone who isn’t judgemental, who you feel relaxed around and you can be yourself with, someone who can laugh at themselves, who don’t take theirselves too seriously and are willing to stop an argument at a dime. Who has a purpose in life, but creates time to play with you and engages in stimulating conversations. Even if they aren’t tuned into jokes and like to win every argument, but are willing to learn how to end an argument before it escalates.
• Choose someone who is your soul mate, who will celebrate your strength and they see potential in you, who will persevere with your weaknesses or faults and willing to stick around and commit to help you become better and confident, until you change that thing about you which gives them concern, who will not betray the trust you have in them, sticking by you through thick & thin, through the varied challenges of life.
• Choose someone who has the ability to care for themselves, who is an independent being, who is interdependent, but not co-dependent. Someone who is willing to overlook some of your faults & annoying characteristics, someone who is tolerant within reason
• Choose someone who has the ability to learn, for those without knowledge are often intolerant about the issues of life. They must be open to learn newer ways of seeing things in a new light and be curious about this world, human nature and how people work
• Choose someone that isn’t closed up and don’t see things only in there way or that everything has to be this way and the only way. For life long relationship it is vital to have someone willing to evolve, learn and grow with you.
• Choose someone who is willing to be like you, who is strong but yet sensitive i.e. someone though on one side & also fragile on the other side. That is the ability to be flexible like a palm tree, yet strong & sensitive.
• Choose someone who has the ability to see things from the others perspective, one who is willing to be empathetic and understand where your coming from and be alert to things around oneself.
• Choose someone that has an inner life, who does something else besides there career or vocation i.e. they are religious, into painting, football, a form of escapism or into charity.
• Choose someone who has similar passions to you in life, for a relationship is for making memories together in life, it’s like a savings account to do things together, for they are the glue of the relationship, for pleasure & to tease each other, for both the good and bad times.
• Choose someone who is ready to support you, who have similar values about children, family members, child bearing, about your roots, the roles of men & women in relationship, about religion, about marriage and kinds of marriage.
• Choose someone who is compassionate, who is willing and able to listen and want to seat down and talk relationship problems over, giving equal time, building rhythm in your relationship, even though you have different views.
• The most important of all = choose someone that makes your life bigger, someone that challenges you, supports you, and encourages you, who don’t feel threatened by your success and achievement n life. Who feels comfortable & happy when you make great advancement or achieve greater heights in life
