In the world we live in raising teens, with hip hop, you tube and my space, when do we have the opportunity to be that positive role model? Is it during breakfast in the morning, activities after school, during homework, or just before we all go our separate ways for that good night sleep. \
It's not easy being parents and making that daily connection with all the busy schedules. How can we know we are being a good role model and making sure that our teens have that strong self-esteem. Well it's by everything we do and say. It doesn't just start when they are teens. It started when they were babies. Not only by what we said, but by what they saw us do. When our children are little, they're like sponges, soaking up everything. As little girls we imitate our mother in the kitchen, we wear her shoes and try on her clothes. Little boys imitate their father trying to shave, helping dad with the grass, or handing him that tool while he works on the car. So what steps can we take to be good role models and how do we ensure self-esteem? Here are a few tips;
Step 1-Stop! If breakfast, or dinner is the only time you can connect with your teen, take that time to connect. Talk with your teen. Whether you are discussing school work, news and events, or family vacation. Communication is the key. Allow this time to set boundaries, so your teen knows what acceptable behavior is. If your teen has after school activities, don't just drop them off, stick around. Make time for you teen.
Step2-Look! Whether your teen is into hip-hop, my space, or you tube, check it out, look and see what they are doing. Know their friends and the parents. The more you look, the more you can see, the more you can encourage, instill goal setting and inspire their talents, gifts.
Step3-Listen! Let them know your door is open. If something bad happens, not only listen, but hear and allow your teen the opportunity to explain as they deserve just as much as you. Use the negative situation as a learning tool. Avoid blaming, criticizing, fault finding, which can undermine self-esteem and can lead to resentment. Remind them that your love is unconditional.
Step4 Lead by example. Live a healthy life style, stay educated, informed and most of all stay involved.
