How to Be A Positive Role Model With Our Teens & Build Self-Esteem

In the world we live in raising teens, with hip hop, you tube and my space, when do we have the opportunity to be that positive role model? Is it during breakfast in the morning, activities after school, during homework, or just before we all go our separate ways for that good night sleep. \

It's not easy being parents and making that daily connection with all the busy schedules. How can we know we are being a good role model and making sure that our teens have that strong self-esteem. Well it's by everything we do and say. It doesn't just start when they are teens. It started when they were babies. Not only by what we said, but by what they saw us do. When our children are little, they're like sponges, soaking up everything. As little girls we imitate our mother in the kitchen, we wear her shoes and try on her clothes. Little boys imitate their father trying to shave, helping dad with the grass, or handing him that tool while he works on the car. So what steps can we take to be good role models and how do we ensure self-esteem? Here are a few tips;

Step 1-Stop! If breakfast, or dinner is the only time you can connect with your teen, take that time to connect. Talk with your teen. Whether you are discussing school work, news and events, or family vacation. Communication is the key. Allow this time to set boundaries, so your teen knows what acceptable behavior is. If your teen has after school activities, don't just drop them off, stick around. Make time for you teen.

Step2-Look! Whether your teen is into hip-hop, my space, or you tube, check it out, look and see what they are doing. Know their friends and the parents. The more you look, the more you can see, the more you can encourage, instill goal setting and inspire their talents, gifts.

Step3-Listen! Let them know your door is open. If something bad happens, not only listen, but hear and allow your teen the opportunity to explain as they deserve just as much as you. Use the negative situation as a learning tool. Avoid blaming, criticizing, fault finding, which can undermine self-esteem and can lead to resentment. Remind them that your love is unconditional.

Step4 Lead by example. Live a healthy life style, stay educated, informed and most of all stay involved.

How to Charm a Woman

So, are you wondering how to charm a certain woman, or just ladies in general? Let me show you how it's done.

Step 1-ooks are not the first thing a woman looks for when choosing mate. For example, how many times have you seen someone that is not so great looking with a good looking woman? I have seen it, many of times. So this may be good news for some. A woman knows within seconds of looking at someone that may be mate material. So before you can charm her, you are going to get her attention first. I will show you how.

Step2-When looking for a mate, a lady will look for many, many things. She will asses him right away, and not even know it. She will look at his cleanliness, over all health, confidence, friendliness, and stamina, among many, many other things. The first thing you want is confidence. If you do not have it, learn it.

Step3-Make sure you are well groomed and clean.

Step4-Be friendly, this will show her that you are not going to hurt her. She wants someone that may be intimidating if need be, to others, but not her. Don't get me wrong, you are not going into a place dogging others out, this is a no, no. You should carry yourself with good posture, and look others in the eye. Never become aggressive though. You should make this impression on her within the first few seconds you meet her, this is when it is very important.

Step5-Now that you have her attention, you may relax a little. You should first off listen to her, and listen good, ask her questions. Females are of talking nature, so you should have good verbal communication skills.

Step6-Never look clingy, too exited, just remember, cool, calm, and collective. This will help you quite a bit.

Step7-Show her you are interested, just not over interested. You want to give her the impression that their are other females that can be interesting, besides her, without verbalizing it, or starring to hard at other females. You do not want her to think that she can have you anytime she wants too, because let's face it, sometimes people want something that may be in reach, but just out of reach, if you can understand this, you are doing fine.

Step8-When you decide you have found someone that you are going to go on a date with, smile often, and listen a lot. You should ask many interesting questions, but nothing too personal. Offer a little information on your self. You may give more information later. Remember, that a lady loves to verbalize. If you give her a compliment, start off small. Leave her wanting more. Say something like,"you have the most adorable laugh." You may compliment more later.

Step9-Be a gentleman. Open her doors for her, show her that she is lady.

Step10-After you have followed the steps above, you have charmed her just enough, to make it just right. You may then proceed to taking her places you will both enjoy, and just have fun. Later you may do things like surprise her with special gifts or notes to let her know you are thinking about her. Never over do it, though. You should never over do it though.

Step11-Communication is very important to a lady. You should have good communication and listening skills, never forget this. Best of luck to you!